I have read many blog posts in the past but have never written my own. I kind of felt like I really didn’t have anything to share that anyone would want to read about, until now. Given that it is the start of World Doula Week, I will start my first blog ever with the story of why I became a doula.
Two days ago from today, I received a phone call from my mother saying while she was going through some of her packed clothes she found a project I had done in high school. She began to describe what I wrote in the first chapter but stopped and said that I should read it for myself. So, she drove from Arkadelphia to Little Rock to deliver this 18 year old school project (don’t try to calculate my age). I first flipped through the pages and laughed at old school pictures and pictures I had taken with friends throughout the years. I even came across an old movie ticket; back then a movie was only $6.75 (again, don’t try to calculate my age). After a few laughs I returned to the first chapter and began to read what would eventually be the start of my path.
“Who Am I?”
My name is Alexis Whiteside. I was born in Milwaukee, Wisconsin then after some years have passed me and my mother moved to Little Rock, AR…
…I want to be an obstetrician because I love babies… and the event of someone giving birth to another life is very fascinating to me…
...my plan is to open my own business…but before that happens I will be waiting on expecting mothers and helping them in their time of need.
Fast forward a few years, two children, a BS in Business, a house, a husband, and a few pets. The dream in my project was long forgotten and replaced with a plan to climb the corporate ladder. However, as I succeeded in my job, I felt like something was missing. I felt as if I was meant to do more…be more.
Then…all of a sudden…it happened! My dream came back to me. My dream to help mothers in their time of need, instead this time I am older, wiser, and have had children of my own. I have had a bad birthing and postpartum experience, but I have also had a positive birthing experience. I have held hands and comforted mothers while they struggled with self-doubt and uncertainty. I have encouraged women to be the woman they want to be while being the mother they want to be. I have always been a postpartum and infant care doula. So, to make it official, I received my professional training and started my own business.
Although I didn’t become an obstetrician and follow the plan the high school senior me had planned, my love for babies and wanting to help mothers in their time of need has never changed. I feel like the path I took was the path made for me. The path where I became….a Doula.